Juliet Grayson

Juliet Grayson (@CounsellorsCPD) is an psychotherapist, coach and teacher, specialising in working with people with relationship and sexual problems, and people with terminal illness.

She is the author of “Landscapes of the Heart, The Working World of a Sex and Relationship Therapist“, and the director of StopSO (Specialist Treatment Organisation for Perpetrators and Survivors of Sexual Offences), a UK-wide independent network of suitably qualified professionals willing and trained to work with potential sex offenders, sex offenders and their families.

In today’s episode we explore the causes of sexual attraction to minors in adults, what causes a pedophile to move from a sexual attraction to minors to actually committing an offense, how and why we should change public perception towards non-offending pedophiles.

We discuss the importance of providing people who are attracted to children with access to treatment, what therapy for pedophilia consists of and how it can help, and why preventing the first offense is not only more ethical, but more cost effective than punishment.

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There are currently 1,417 victims of sexual abuse EVERY DAY in the UK.

StopSO works with those at risk of sexual offending or reoffending, to enable them to stop acting out, reducing the risk to society and reducing the number of victims.

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4 replies
  1. Jennifer
    Jennifer says:

    This is an illuminating podcast, and I found it reassuring to have such a compassionate woman talking about this very difficult subject. Listening to her has persuaded me that it is a no-brainer, and that preventing the first crime is the way to go. As she said we should not pick up the pieces after it has happened, but should be stopping the first crime. I hope that someone with more money that me decides to contribute to StopSO, and help them keep up the good work….especially that of funding people who cannot afford to pay, yet are asking for help not to cause sexual harm. Thank you Danny, great interview

  2. ethane72
    ethane72 says:

    Hi Danny, it was good to see you addressing these issues again. I see you still had that impulse to lock up all the pedophiles before we do any harm, but it also looked like that impulse is weakening, especially if the guy is just 13. Juliet sees real flesh-and-blood people who’ve made big mistakes, but not monsters. Maybe the decision to interview a pro-legalization pedophile (Tom) in preference to a virtuous one seems less obvious now than it did earlier in the year. At least I can hope. Sorry once again for my mistaken identity problem in assuming that other guy was you.

  3. Debauch
    Debauch says:

    After listening to some more of this interview; when it came to trauma in childhood, I too had trouble with that dubious connection. Probably what happened is their compulsion has been tamed by CBT. As mentioned, Paedophilia is innate. This also reminds me of the rail worker who damaged his frontal cortex and from then on had no table manners etc.

  4. Piers Cacace
    Piers Cacace says:

    I struggle with the lock ’em up idea. As Juliet says, a majority of offenders aren’t pedophiles, so if we’re going to prevent child sex abuse through a preventive measure like that, then we’d have to start by locking up the non-pedophiles. When you think of it like that, the lock ’em up idea is nonsensical. Besides, isn’t most child sex abuse also committed by people known to the family of the victim? Framing the problem as one of “us normal folk versus those monsters” doesn’t really solve it, surely.


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